Stand In My Shoes

Hi, everyone. This is miss Columba and today I'm gonna be reading the story stand in my shoes. Kids learning about empathy. Stand in my shoes. Dedication for decades he has delivered the same consistent message, set firm limits in a loving way, let children make decisions sometimes, allow them to struggle, allow them to solve the problems they create whenever possible. Let them learn from their mistakes, simple wisdom needed now more than ever in our lives throughout his years of training parents and teachers, his message has been built upon a foundation of empathy and respect for the children who come into our lives. Love these beautiful children help them grow strong. This book is dedicated to Jim fay, one of the great teachers. Emily, this is the fourth time you've barged into my room. I'm trying to study for a big test. I just want to talk to you, Emily wind. Alicia closed her book and said, can't you have a little empathy? Emily had no idea what her big sister meant. What's empathy, empathy is when you understand how someone is feeling because you imagine what it's like to be them or stand in their shoes. People are grateful when you notice how they feel. I'm worried about my test and I'd really appreciate it if you'd scram so I can study. Emily was in a was grumpy after, as she left her sister's room, but she thought about Alicia's words. Would people really appreciate it if she noticed how they felt? The next morning, Emily went to the kitchen for breakfast, her dad was making coffee and had spilled some coffee grounds. He didn't look very happy. Dad, are you in a hurry? She asked, yes, sweetie, I have a big presentation at work and need to get going. Emily found a wet dish rag, you look tired, dad. How about if I clean up the coffee while you get your stuff together? Would that help? For a moment, Emily's dad just looked at her. Then he hugged her, you are the best M he said as he grabbed his coat and hurried out the back door. It was drizzling outside as Emily waited for the school bus as it pulled up one of the older kids accidentally knocked into a little girl as she was getting onto the bus. Rosie lost her balance and sent hard on the wet cement. Hey, yelled, Emily. Watch out for the little kids. Then Emily turned to the little girl. Well, that's a yucky way to start the day. I'm okay, Rosie replied, but she struggled with her heavy backpack. Emily took Rosie's hand and pulled her up. Pulled her up. Then helped her onto the bus. In class, misses Fitch was not her usual laughing self after the morning writing lesson misses Fitch went back to her desk instead of walking around the classroom like she usually did. Emily noticed that her teachers, eyes were red, and that she wiped her nose on a tissue. Misses Fitch, is there something wrong? My little dog buster died last night. She said quietly, he was very sick. We were hoping he'd get better, but he didn't. Oh no, said Emily. I'm not sure how you feel, but it has to hurt. It does. Thank you for asking. In the cafeteria, she noticed misses waddell struggling to lift a heavy try of steamed vegetables into its place on the serving line. That sure looks heavy, Emily said, it is, misses waddell said, I get a workout every day when I serve lunch. That's quite a load of stuff, Emily, said to mister Redmond as he pushed the cart down the hallway, I just hope I don't run into somebody over. Emily decided to walk in front of the car yelling and allowed clear voice, coming through art cart coming through, get out of my way, Tommy said as he pushed Samantha, Emily's friend out of line. It's my turn. Tommy did this a lot at recess. Tommy, how do you like it if I pushed you out of line when you were waiting your turn? Probably not good, Tommy replied, I love the tire swing. Samantha loves it too as much as you. Samantha loves to as much as you do. So don't push her and try to take cuts, okay? Sorry, mumble Tommy as he walked to the end of the line. After school, mister Peterson said hello, Emily, I hope you had a wonderful day. She stopped and looked at him. I did have a wonderful day, but mister Peterson, every day you say something nice to me, you never forget. As she walked to her seat, Emily could hear mister Peterson greet each child as they got on the bus. She sat down next to Samantha. When the seats were almost full, rosy rushed onto the bus out of breath. Oh no, there isn't a place for me. Emily nudged Samantha and then asked her to slide over. Rosie, you can sit with us. I can thanks. When Emily got home, her mom asked, how was your day? You look deep in thought. I'm fine, but I was wondering about something. What's that? You always seem to notice how I'm feeling. Part of being a mom, but how about you? Who notices how you're feeling, asked Emily? Well, senator mom, that's very thoughtful question. I guess the answer is on Carla and my Friends, Nancy and Shauna, and mostly your dad. Sometimes Alicia, and now you. Why do you ask? Just wondering said Emily, I'm starving. Is there anything good for a snack? Let's make something together. It was almost bedtime, Emily could see Alicia studying in her room. Instead of barging in, Emily knocked on the door, can I come in or are you busy? You look like you want to talk, said Alicia, come on in. I've been noticing how people feel Emily said, you know, the empathy stuff. So what happened? What did you learn? People really like it when you recognize how they feel. Just noticing seems to touch their hearts. You got it. But there's something more when I care enough to notice how others feel something changes inside of me, Emily explained. It sounds like you enjoy that feeling. Yes, I do, replied Emily. Good, now get out of here so I can study. Letter to reader, dear reader, empathy is the heart of love and logic, the practice of understanding how other how another person is feeling keeps us from becoming that angry parent or teacher. Empathy is part of a strong positive emotional state in which we can treat others with respect while still setting appropriate limits on how others behave around us. It gives us a glimpse into the heart of another person and helps us remember to always put the love into love and logic. Empathy does not offer excuses for bad choices as a parent or teacher sometimes empathy must be followed by a consequence or by allowing some sadness to come into our lives. Into the lives of children, but with empathy, we can give consequences with love rather than anger. Empathy is the foundation of all emotional intelligence by helping our children learn empathy, we raise the odds they will have strong positive social relationships, truly care for others and be able to set appropriate limits in their own lives without using angry behaviors or words. Sincerely Bob Sorenson.